10 Steps to Love Yourself and No Longer Feel Lonely

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We could discover our creative distinctions, and our individualities, and appreciate ourselves for the qualities that set us apart from others.

Today I woke up at 4:15 am. A lot earlier than my usual wake up time at 5 am.

I started my day with meditation to the soothing sound of Wayne Dyer’s I AM meditation for 40 minutes.

When I was done, I felt light-hearted and warm feeling oozing from my heart.

My higher self instructed me to stay open and give only love today.

I was on my usual morning routine to the forrest and ready to do some functional movement.

At the crossway, a car honked and I felt surprised because there usually was not a single car in the street.

The young man in the car asked me where I was from.

“China.”

He asked me where I am going this early in the morning.

“Workout.”

He asked me whether he could drive me to my destination.

With the loving acceptance from the higher self, I felt guided to accept the kind offer.

He told me his name, where he was from, what his job and hobby was, and then he told me he felt lonely.

Then I started reflecting back to the last time I felt lonely.

It was so distant in my memory that I could no longer identify with the feeling of loneliness.

But how did I transform and evolve into feeling good about myself and loving myself unconditionally?

Louise Hay’s 10 step program to self-love was my solution.

And I would love to share it with you in case you feel lonely every once in a while.

I love you and I wish you enjoy this journey of self-discovery and radical healing.

After the 10 steps become a part of your positive mental patterns, you will find yourself surrounded by loving, generous, and kind people who are ready to collaborate with you on every level for you to experience unlimited abundance and boundless joy.

1. Stop criticizing yourself

When we feel not good enough, we find ways to keep ourselves miserable. We create illness, procrastinate, and mistreat our bodies with food, alcohol, and drugs.

Having to be perfect only puts pressure on ourselvs and prevent us from looking at areas of our lives that need healing.

We could discover our creative distinctions, our individualities, and appreciate ourselves for the qualities that set us apart from others.

2. Stop scaring ourselves.

Do you take a small problem and make it into a big monster?

Do you always expect the worst out of life?

In relationships, someone doesn’t call and you immediately decide that you are unlovable and you’ll never have another relationship again. You feel abandoned and rejected.

In your career, someone remarks work and you begin to think you’re going to be fired.

Solution: if you habitually entertain a negative thought, find an image of something you love to replace it with. “No, I’m not going to think about that anymore. I’m going to think about sunsets, roses, yachts, waterfalls, or Paris.

3. Be gentle and kind and patient with yourself.

We all make mistakes. Mistakes are your stepping stones. Don’t punish yourself for making a mistake. If you are willing to learn and grow from the mistake, then it serves as a step toward fulfillment in your life.

Solution: We need to keep reinforcing what we know. As we learn new ways, we need to be gentle and kind to ourselves.

4. Learn to be kind to our minds.

Being kind to ourselves means we stop all blame, all guilt, all punishment, and all pain.

Relaxation can help us as it is essential for tapping into the Power within.

“I love you. All is well.”

Solution:

meditate daily

Visualize optimistic outcomes

5. Praise yourself

Criticism breaks down the inner spirit, and praise builds it up.

Begin with little things. Tell yourself that you are wonderful.

The next time you do something new, or different, or something you are just learning and you are not too adept at it, be there for yourself.

“Louise, you were fantastic considering this was the first time out. By the time you do this about six times, you are going to be a pro.”

6. Loving yourself means supporting yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you.

When people work together on a common goal, they bring their pain, confusion, anger, and

come together to find a way to rise above and grow up.

7. Love your negatives.

We have to understand that whatever issue or problem we have, we contributed to creating it to handle certain situations.

Whatever our negative patterns are, we can learn to fulfill those needs in more positive ways.

Laugh at our problems. When we can see our lives as a stage play with soap operas and drama and comedy, we get a better perspective and we are on the way to healing.

8. Take care of your body.

Remember that what’s right for one isn’t necessarily right for another- our bodies are different.

Find an exercise that you enjoy and that is fun to do.

Open our minds to new technologies such as sound wave technology and ancient healing such as Ayurvedic medicine.

9. Mirror work to find out the cause of an issue that keeps us from loving ourselves.

“I love you. What can I do for you today? How can I make you happy?” When you start your day in the morning.

If something unpleasant happens, tell yourself “I love you anyways.”

If something wonderful happens, go to the mirror and say, “Thank you.” Acknowledge yourself for creating this wonderful experience.

Forgive yourself and forgive others in the mirror.

People who have problems loving themselves are almost always not willing to forgive.

Our garbage from the past just creates more garbage for the future.

“I now deserve all good. I allow good experiences to fill my life.”

“I have wonderful, loving, warm, open communication with every member of my family, including my mother.”

10. Love yourself now- don’t wait until you get it right.

Dissatisfaction with yourself is a habit pattern.

The quickest way to change any problem is to love who we are.

It is amazing how the loving vibrations we send out will attract us people who are loving.

Unconditional love is the goal we have come to attain.

Laugh at our problems. When we can see our lives as a stage play with soap operas and dramas and comedy, we get a better perspective and we are on the way to healing.